THe Four Agreements
The Four Agreements
The Four Agreements is a wisdom book written in 1997 by Miguel Ruiz. As expected, it talks about four habits. To be honest, they are easy to understand, even for a 7-year-old child, but it is so hard to apply them. You will probably ask me why do I have to make them a life routine? Well, so let’s make a little summary. The book talks about our place in society and what kind of people we are because we don’t even choose our own name. Something that I really like in the first chapter is that I’ve learned that we don’t have a choice to believe in something or not during our domestication with our family. But of course, we can change them. Yes, it’s hard to do that. It’s just like if every day, you used to live in a sunny city and one day you must learn to spend the rest of your life in a snowy city. The four agreements are not for telling you what to do with your life or how to live it, but to show you what your life will look like if you try it just one day. These are the four agreements: Be impeccable with your word, don’t take anything personally, don’t make assumptions and Always do your best. To understand more about those agreements and how to just try them one time I wish you could read the book. Personally, I like the book because it talks about people's life matters and how in some way, we can choose to adapt ourselves to them. I mean to the people and the things around us. What we do or not, what we believe or not is related to our previous step, with our parents during domestication. “Being Impeccable with your word” means that you must at least try to control what you tell people and yourself (the most important) in any circumstances. That is according to the book the most important agreement. Just because we say something to people when we feel some emotions and then those people can take it in some way that will affect them for their entire lives. “Don’t take anything personally” means according to the book that whatever people do to you it has nothing to do with you. That’s their own business. According to the book, if you don’t take anything personally, it doesn’t matter for you what people say to you. The only thing that is important is how you see yourself, not according to others' lifestyle or life routine but according to your real personality. “Don’t make assumptions” means ask questions. Don’t try to understand by yourself what something means. Don’t judge people. If you don’t know, just ask what is going on. For example, in a relationship we make assumptions without taking time to understand each other. A proverb from the book is “Making assumptions in a relationship is asking for trouble”. It’s just communication. The last, “Always do your best”. Sometimes, we must make a choice, that’s harsh. They are not easy. No matter what we do, nothing will affect people (you or others). So, just try your best and you will have no regrets even if your best was not the best. At least, it was enough to help you have no shame. You won’t blame the beautiful you. You will be in peace. When you don’t do your best, then you feel remorse about what you did and guiltiness. For more comprehensive information, I hope you can read the book!
The Four Agreements is a wisdom book written in 1997 by Miguel Ruiz. As expected, it talks about four habits. To be honest, they are easy to understand, even for a 7-year-old child, but it is so hard to apply them. You will probably ask me why do I have to make them a life routine? Well, so let’s make a little summary. The book talks about our place in society and what kind of people we are because we don’t even choose our own name. Something that I really like in the first chapter is that I’ve learned that we don’t have a choice to believe in something or not during our domestication with our family. But of course, we can change them. Yes, it’s hard to do that. It’s just like if every day, you used to live in a sunny city and one day you must learn to spend the rest of your life in a snowy city. The four agreements are not for telling you what to do with your life or how to live it, but to show you what your life will look like if you try it just one day. These are the four agreements: Be impeccable with your word, don’t take anything personally, don’t make assumptions and Always do your best. To understand more about those agreements and how to just try them one time I wish you could read the book. Personally, I like the book because it talks about people's life matters and how in some way, we can choose to adapt ourselves to them. I mean to the people and the things around us. What we do or not, what we believe or not is related to our previous step, with our parents during domestication. “Being Impeccable with your word” means that you must at least try to control what you tell people and yourself (the most important) in any circumstances. That is according to the book the most important agreement. Just because we say something to people when we feel some emotions and then those people can take it in some way that will affect them for their entire lives. “Don’t take anything personally” means according to the book that whatever people do to you it has nothing to do with you. That’s their own business. According to the book, if you don’t take anything personally, it doesn’t matter for you what people say to you. The only thing that is important is how you see yourself, not according to others' lifestyle or life routine but according to your real personality. “Don’t make assumptions” means ask questions. Don’t try to understand by yourself what something means. Don’t judge people. If you don’t know, just ask what is going on. For example, in a relationship we make assumptions without taking time to understand each other. A proverb from the book is “Making assumptions in a relationship is asking for trouble”. It’s just communication. The last, “Always do your best”. Sometimes, we must make a choice, that’s harsh. They are not easy. No matter what we do, nothing will affect people (you or others). So, just try your best and you will have no regrets even if your best was not the best. At least, it was enough to help you have no shame. You won’t blame the beautiful you. You will be in peace. When you don’t do your best, then you feel remorse about what you did and guiltiness. For more comprehensive information, I hope you can read the book!
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